Success is not about driving yourself harder; it is about LETTING GO of what blocks your heart. ~~ Robert Holden, author of Success Intelligence

Is your to-do list so long that you can never get it done?

Do you seem to work harder and harder every day but never really get where you want to go?

Are you afraid to get off the treadmill because you might wake up broke, homeless and all alone?

If so, then today I encourage you to take a moment to stop and give yourself a Valentine’s Day gift…

an opportunity to meet the real you.

You see, we all yearn for success…but few of us take the time to figure out what that really means.

We are so busy doing, achieving, and buying more things that we forget the “Why?”

I was fortunate to attend a 4-day conference with Robert Holden that profoundly changed my life.

He called the “busyness” of life “destination addiction.”  We give up the now for the future…striving without ever arriving..constantly leaving ourselves behind.

His message was simple…success is not “doing;” it is knowing who you really are and what is important to you.

But his real genius was in the strategies he used to help us experience that on a cellular level.

Robert believes in the power of questions.

He encouraged us to ask ourselves “What is success?” and keep on asking until we got an answer that seemed real, true and authentic.

A regular inquiry into the meaning of success reveals the essence of who you are and what really matters most.

You can try it yourself.

What is success?

What does success mean to you?

What is real?

What is important?

What do you love?

What is your joy?

Who do you want to be?

A tweet to success

Here is your chance to define success in 144 characters or less.

This is what I came up with in the 10 minutes we had to do the exercise:

Wake up grateful and experience every moment as an opportunity for growth, authenticity and connection.

What is yours?

What is your life purpose?

Many of us search for our life purpose the same way we strive for success.

We seek and we seek, yet we never seem to find a purpose that satisfies us.

According to Robert, that is because we are asking the wrong questions.

Our life purpose is not about what we should do, it is about who we want to be in this world.

It is not that you have to do something different.

It is that you have to bring your heart and soul to what you are doing.

You have to show up.

The Purpose of Humanity

One of the things that blocks our ability to find our purpose is that we think we have to find something specific and unique, in service of the ego.

Instead of looking for a unique purpose, Robert proposes that you start with the big picture:

What is the purpose of humanity?

• Love
• Peace
• Connection
• Higher spirituality
• Evolution of consciousness
• Healing
• Expansion
• Transformation
• Authenticity

If you have been searching for more than a few hours, choose one.

If you resonate to more than one, find the golden thread that ties them all together.

Could it be love?

An old Beatles tune says that “all you need is love.”

Could love be your life purpose?  Being love…not giving and receiving love.

Ask yourself this question:

If love is my purpose, what do I have to do first to discover what it is like to be loved?

On a scale of 0 to 100%, how much do I let life love me?

Tune in to your being love and let it show you the way to what to do today.

Beyond Busyness

According to Robert, every member of the “busy generation” has to be willing to sacrifice busyness for success.

The purpose of your life is not to be as busy as possible.

Permanent busyness is the convenient excuse of our lives.

It blocks authenticity and true success.

Success is knowing what you really, really want.

You can discover that by asking yourself these three simple questions:

Who do I want to be?

What do I want to give?

What do I want to receive?

I hope that you will give yourself a gift this Valentine’s Day.

Slow down, create some space in your life, and just be present with these ideas.

I will leave you with this one final thought.

We do not become happy because we are successful.

We become successful because we are happy.